When concidering your social mental health you need to focus on how you feel when dealing with other people and at how you react to those feelings. Even the most easy going of people are known to have suffered with social anxiety during their life. If you find it hard to cope with everyday social events, you are not on your own. There are many ways we can develop social anxiety or social shyness. Due to the susceptible nature of being human, and the fact there is still a lot of stigma surrounding issues of mental health, most people deny themselves the help that is to be had. If we fall ill with a physical disease, we are a lot more open in seeking help. Feeling down is often seen by the person as a a personal problem they will get over. If you don't feel quite right around others it is nothing to be ashamed of. Mental illness can be treated successfully without the use of medication in most cases. What is it that gives us mental strength? Well, some of it seems to be genetic. Mental health is well known to be partially attributable to genetic factors. Life experience also plays a big part when it comes to mental strength. If we are in control of our lives, we feel more self confident in who we are.
It has been proven that the majority of social anxiety problems are caused by the lack of self confidence. If you feel comfortable with yourself that feeling will emit from you as self confidence which in turn will be sensed by others who will then see you in a different way.
One of the best ways to build self confidence is to take a step back from everything and do a reality check on yourself. You need to think whether you are taking too much on, try to keep your life's priorities in focus. It is sometimes easier for us to take on more and more things to push the feelings of social anxiety aside, this is a self defeating reaction. Be smart and think about yourself for a change and choose the extra activities you take on carefully, there is no benefit in doing extra activities if it damages your mental health.
One of the biggest factors that destroys our self confidence is concerning ourselves with what others think of us. From studies carried out in the United States on people with social anxiety, it was proven that in 60% of the cases the main reason of there social anxiety was from what they thought others thought of them. When we make assumptions of what the people around us think of use, it is human nature to take the negative path. If we just applied some good sense to the thoughts, you will realize how silly those assumptions are. How do we know what others are thinking? Can we read there minds? No of course not, the only reason we go down the negative path is because we choose to.
Next time you think what does that person think of me reject that negative thought and replace it with a positive thought, then over time your self confidence will build up and those negative thought will disappear. Self confidence stems from how you feel about yourself, if you don't like yourself how can you expect others to like you?
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