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How to speak well to the public effectively by Cíntia Vilani
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How to speak well to the public effectively |
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Communication,Health,Motivation
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When commenting on the art of public speaking soon comes to mind a situation where someone is in front of hundreds of people, upon a stage or pulpit is he or religious school. That someone in cold, cold hands and a tightening in the stomach. But what many do not realize, but thousands who experience the difficulty of speaking in public is not restricted to the situation described above. Someone who's lost in the street and need to know where to get information to go through it, as well as children, adolescents, and young adults go through this embarrassment of communication in a first day at school, college, club and a party where the birthday boy or only knows who invited him. Read several books on how to speak well, how to behave, to enroll in courses that promise to cure "fear of public speaking 'in one weekend though instruments are used and recognized the limits of' cure 'are excellent for thousands of people who experience such difficulty. However, it is important to note that individuals who have beliefs of incapacity and inadequacy are the ones who suffer most in need of assistance and therapy, therefore, not just learn behavioral techniques, one must understand the thoughts and beliefs that lead them to act the wrong way . First you must identify what are the beliefs of inadequacy and inability to so exemplify the attitude and behavior adopted. Well, first you must understand that they all have thoughts of failure ("I must perform this task, but I have no idea") and inappropriate ("I only have the red dress in this party, I think I overdid it in production") but there are people who end up adopting these thoughts on much that they create a dysfunctional belief (a belief which does not help correct behavior and mental quality of life pleasant). For people with difficulty speaking in public, often have beliefs of disability ("do not know why I accepted to take this class, students will complain then it is always like that," 'We can not not know how to give a good speech, " I am a failure that can not even approach a person to take a question ") and individuals who claim they are failures, unable to do anything because when they do, something bad happens. For these do well when speaking in public is necessary to work the exaggeration of his thoughts through a Socratic dialogue (questioning), as inquired if the end result is always negative, whether it's true he does not give a good lecture or do not know to express themselves well (people with traits of perfectionism are often guided by beliefs of disability, the more demanding of themselves to be perfect, it means you are covering a disability that needs to be hidden and kept secret at all costs). From the moment that the individual perceive that your inner truth is not truth lived, he can adopt compensatory strategies to prevent the thoughts of dysfunctional beliefs appear as: - Master the subject: if you give a lecture / classroom research on the topic, chat with friends, partner (a) and make a roadmap of what it believes to be the most important and get ready to say something similar to "excuse me do not know you answer it now, you can search and respond by email or at the lunch, maybe? "is not because he is giving a lecture / lesson that you need to understand everything and answer all questions. Perhaps even know the answer, but the nervousness can 'connect' the thoughts of failure and throw everything down the drain, then prepare a script and have a sleeve that will respond after sentence is an excellent resource - Know the plot: to always seek to know who is the audience that will listen and context of this public (congress, lecture, exhibition, church presentation on radio or television), it is known beforehand that do not know anyone at a party where he was invited , find out a little group of his friend, for example, is a birthday party for a friend from work a little research on that hobby or the city commented that he is considering going to take similar subjects and remember that talk of a journey or a hard time telling that it has been generally yield good crops and good listeners' attention As for those people who are driven by thoughts of inadequacy, they create for themselves an atmosphere that everything they do is wrong, it takes a behavioral training to help her relax the way we interpret the situations around them and teach her to have as compensatory strategies to believe in yourself (you may need to work the self-concept and self esteem), but not imitating anyone acting in a natural way, try to be brief and discreet and train, train and train, for only practice and time is that will give more security to it. Whatever the audience or situation, it is necessary to circumvent the dysfunctional beliefs of incapacity and inadequacy, but for that you must be persistent, because no one adopts a behavior from day to night, so as not to change the thoughts years in the blink of an eye. By Cíntia Vilani Clinical Psychologist Specialist in Cognitive Psychotherapy Expert in Intellectual Disabilities. Master's and doctorate in clinical psychology
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