A rising tide of single women are forgoing traditional marriage and choosing the single life. Currently, almost 50 percent of young adults have never been married and the percentage includes more women than men. As women rise in the workforce, single parenthood becomes accepted, and life partners grow in numbers, fewer women than ever feel obliged to tie the knot. |
In her book DON'T SAY I DO! Why Woman Should Stay Single (NHP, July 2012) author Orna Gadish, Msc, explains why so many women today opt out of marriage and stay unmarried and single. The book reveals a new list of options and opportunities for modern women, provides alternatives to traditional marriages, and encourages women to remain self-reliant and independent in their choices. Gadish looks at the benefits, opportunities and problems of unmarried women in relationships and without relationships, unmarried and married women in unhappy relationships, divorced women, single women, and women contemplating marriage or divorce.
According to Gadish, women today can fully reclaim their identity and strengths, not only within traditional gender roles that were imposed on women in past centuries, of mothers and wives, care takers, and sex providers, but also women can and should follow their ambitions and dreams and carve their own paths while forgoing all the legal hassles and limitations of marriage.
The writer discusses how in today's world the sexual revolution set the stage for new life choices for single and unmarried women. Some of the dating, relationship, dwelling, family, motherhood, and career options presented in DON'T SAY I DO! Why Woman Should Stay Single were unbelievable a few decades ago. Some alternatives are described as "adequate substitutes" for marriage for today's single women.
Traditional marriage has become obsolete for millions of women today, and with increasing divorce and infidelity rates in modern society—there appears to be good a reason to doubt marriage as incarnation of love, or ultimate expression of faithfulness, or even happiness and success for a woman. Unlike in past generations, marriage is not a pinnacle of success or achievement for a woman. Gadish elaborates on these points in her book. Today women can be successful and respected without having a husband, with or without a family, with or without children. It is a matter of choice that single women have to make, for stigmas and stereotypes against single women have relaxed nowadays.
With more women reclaiming their statuses in the workforce and career, education and business, women are equating their decision making powers to men's day by day. Women are not subdued to men but are men's equals, and they do not need men to support them financially. With that in mind, women are encouraged to split finances to be on the safe side.
More so, millions of single women, unmarried women, divorced women, single by choice women, unhappily married women, and also women who contemplate divorce are inspired, with excellent tips on how to become financially, psychologically, and also physically independent. In the past, women relied on marriage to allow them financial, sexual, and psychological freedoms, but according to the writer, not anymore. The book encourages women to think for themselves, weigh what they need in a relationship, family, and career, and consider alternative dating, relationships, motherhood, family, and career choices.
A woman today does not need marriage in order to be financially sound, or to have sex life, or to cohabit with a partner, or to share finances, or to create a family, or even to have and raise kids. "It is a sweeping cultural change embraced by millions, which can't be ignored." Gadish writes. This way, women of all kinds, namely, single women, unmarried women, divorced women, and even widowed women—are encouraged to take advantage of the new opportunities in dating men, relationships, family (including alternative family structures), pregnancy, motherhood, and career for women, and embrace their status as empowered single women who live their lives to the fullest.
Orna Gadish, MSc, is an award-winning writing professional, published author and translator based in Israel. In addition to her far-reaching research on the virtues of single life, she has written two books. Ms. Gadish has an MS degree from New Jersey Institute of Technology.
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