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A gentleman is given to hospitality as a host or a guest. He is always cool, calm and collected at any occasion in appearance, speech and actions. He loves to entertain and to be entertained in a godly sort. A married gentleman is involved with his wife in entertaining. He is not a shy corner seeker. He greets his guests with grace and knows how to be received in grace. A Christian gentleman understands that when He is finished in this life he has one to come where he will be received in grace. The largest banquet ever awaits him, the marriage supper of the Lamb. The Apostle Paul instructed the church to be given to hospitality and to be lovers of hospitality. The Apostle Peter instructs to use hospitality one to another. Generous To Guests Hospitality means to be hospitable and generous to guests. A gentleman understands that wherever he is, he makes people feel at ease, whether it be in his home, on his job, in his automobile or on the street. He does his best to make people comfortable in his presence and in the presence of others. Always The Best He gives place and always supplies his guests with the best the whole time they are in his presence, remembering that Jesus gave the best wine to the drunkards. He, as his master, is no respecter of persons. (Not to say that a Christian gentleman should serve wine at his party.) A gentleman brings out the best china and the best starched white linen tablecloth to all that come into his home, not just the bank president or the pastor of his church. He humbles himself to every occasion. He kills the fatted calf for all of his guests. He spares no expense because he is as his Father in Heaven. A gentleman does not segregate his friends by income on any such thing. When he hosts a party, he invites them all. A gentleman also understands that he can host a private dinner party with his closest friends, with no guilt. No Respect Of Persons If a gentleman and his family are invited to a dinner party or any party and sees respect of persons by the host, he politely excuses his family and himself and leaves unnoticed. At a later date he should get with the host in private and explain his actions. This way he does not grieve the Holy Spirit by not living his convictions, nor does he bring shame to his host. A gentleman understands that by taking such action, he is teaching his family to not be respecter of persons. A gentleman understands that when he hosts a party he invites his rich friends and poor friends together. If anyone is offended, they were not his friends at all. He makes no apologies to the offended or for the offended. He does not even say, "Joe, I am sorry you feel that way", or does he say to his guests, "I don't know what got into Sam". He may be so bold and say, Is there anyone else that would like to leave as well? He takes his example after the Lord Christ. His actions will speak for themselves as to where he stands on the matter. He is no respecter of persons. A gentleman knows that life is a process and that the friends he chooses can effect the rest of his life for the good or for the not so good. So he chooses his friends carefully, while being gracious to all. A gentleman understands that there is a time to remain silent and a time to speak up. He trusts the Holy Spirit to know the difference. A gentleman, as host, has no problem with politely and privately asking a rude guest to refrain. If the rude guest refrains, all is well. If the rude guest does not, a gentleman asks his rude guest to refrain publicly. If he does, all is well, if he does not refrain, the gentleman, politely as possible, escorts his rude guest to the door. And says, "Good bye". He does not lie and say, "It was good to have you". Hopefully, a gentleman has chosen his friends well and avoids these situations altogether. More gentleman articles at: Being A Gentleman
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