The good news is that lots of fathers are now taking a much active role in parenting. This was revealed in a survey carried out by The Parenting Group based in California. Up to 82% of the first time fathers claimed that they were taking part in parental duties and were well aware of children behavior issues. |
The figures for all fathers was a bit lower at 66% but they were dismissing the label as mere breadwinners and were much more involved in parenting. This is certainly the case in Scandinavian countries where women can work full time and many fathers take care of the children on a permanent basis.
The second problem in dealing with children behavior issues is that parents are inclined to allow their kids far too much media time. This eats into time that they should be spending doing physical exercise.
In fact the UK National Trust reveals that kids no longer have contact any more with nature. They are running a campaign to get kids under twelve years of age to do things in the open air like climb trees, catch fish and build a tree house.
Our kids may be connected with the Internet but they are missing out on some very healthy activities. They are also not reading books which is very alarming, I find.
There are lots of studies that show that this green time can have a positive effect on children behaviour issues. Many studies (including the famous University of Illinois one) show that kids were less disruptive and better able to concentrate when they had been doing these activities. The opposite effect was found to be true after they had been on a play station session or on a video game orgy. They could not stay focused at all.
We could call this addiction to technology a sort of technoholicism and it is very worrying because it can lead to a dependency and also deprive the child of activities like reading, playing with toys and above all of playing games in the great open spaces. Our children are really missing out.
It is OK to allow kids to play the odd educational game on the computer and these games can also be a lifesaver on long car journeys. But I know one three year child who plays on his father’s iPhone and he does that all the time. My own nephews are on Facebook and on other social networking sites when they are at home although they do, fortunately, play sports too.
As we have seen, many children behavior issues can be resolved by just making sure that they are getting enough green time and less media time. We should also try to spend more quality time with them in the open as these kids are actually less prone to behavioral problems, research has shown.
Tearing your hair out because of outbursts, lying, defiant and aggressive behavior? Experts now tell us that child behavior modification or simply learning strategies for parenting children with behavior problems is the best way forward. Robert Winterson has written extensively on parenting and children behavior issues for many years.
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