The Irresistible Approach To Dating and Women

Do You Make These Confidence Blunders?

2. Under-confidence. This is the most debilitating problem. It is the MISTAKEN belief that you are simply incapable of getting the love/date you want. It stops many a good person in their tracks, sometimes even when the girl is CLEARLY interested.

3. Poor self-image. Closely related, people with this problem simply see themselves as "lepers" and act accordingly. They will neglect their appearance. They will not even try to meet the women they so badly want.

4. Misplaced confidence. This is the belief that some external factor will simply make them want you. People who rely on their wealth, looks, athletic prowess, celebrity status, etc.. have misplaced confidence. They don't have confidence in themselves, they only have confidence in their situation. While this may work short-term, it wears thin quickly and will not succeed in finding and keeping a winner.

So How Can I Have True Confidence?

The good news is that you can have true confidence almost instantaneously. It does not require deep psychotherapy, brain surgery or years of yoga and affirmations. It requires one thing only: Commitment. The definition of true confidence (write this down, memorize it) is as follows:

I have full confidence that I will continue to try, improve, try, improve, and try again, until I succeed.

Why is this SO powerful? I'll share two words with you: CONTROL and INFLUENCE. Confidence relates to CONTROL. Under-confidence, low self-esteem and mistaken confidence relate to INFLUENCE. Let me explain.

Do You Have Control?

In life, we control certain things, and influence others. We control what we do, and influence what others do. We rarely can control what others do or how they react. Only dictators in third world countries and control what people do, but even there they cannot control what they think and feel.

In dating, the entire question is what others think and feel. No one alive can control that. We can only influence it, and that's what we want to do. How can we influence it?

By doing the things that we control properly. We control how we approach someone, how often we give it a shot, where we do it, and so forth. By focusing on what you control, and getting it as good as you can, you dramatically increase your INFLUENCE. Follow?

So, How Do I Get The Date?

When you commit to trying, and trying again, and IMPROVING each time, you deepen your CONTROL. As you deepen your control, you increase your influence. This, in and of itself, is hugely attractive to women.

You have the ability to do this now. Eliminate the blunders of over-confidence, poor self image and misplaced confidence. Don't expect anything at all. Commit to working on yourself, and taking chances, over and over again. The best salespeople value "no" as much as "yes", because it means that they are out there giving it a shot.

For under-confidence, try this: Be Julius Caesar. A woman complained to her acting teacher that she was always ignored by salespeople in a department store. The teacher suggested she use her acting skills to act as if she was an empress. She was to walk into the store with the body language of a proud ruler. Sure enough, when she did, she was being trailed by three clerks, eager to show her whatever she wanted. Act confident, be confident. Act like you are a catch for this woman, and she will see that too.

Commit to learning the best techniques, and using them over and over again UNTIL YOU SUCCEED. It could take hours, days, weeks or more. Who cares? You are going to enjoy the ride, because you have true CONFIDENCE.

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