"And among his signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find comfort and repose in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for people who reflect" (30:21) Islamic marriage defines strict and very clear obligations for the husband to follow with regards to making his marriage a success. However, most Muslim women living in a male-dominated society do not even know what they are rightfully owed by their husbands. It is written in the Quran and the entire life of Prophet (PBUH) is also available for everyone to take example from. However, such obligations are not publicly declared nor given any exposure because of the fear of alpha males in our society of losing their authority over their repressed life partner. Not only Muslim men are guardians of their wives but also their providers. Women in Islam, although not discouraged or disallowed to work, have been given the freedom to live their life without burdening themselves to provide for their family- this duty is the man and mans most preferably. And that is another stereotype squashed: Muslim women in Islam are allowed to do whatever they wish, as long as it is considered ethical in Islam and doesn’t cause a rift in their Muslim marriage, and the husband has to provide for her needs. The emotional and physical needs that the Muslim man has to provide to his wife in Islam cover all those aspects that make a marriage the most successful one. There is a high stress on respecting the wife in Islam. If the husband doesn’t give her the due respect and honor as laid down by the example of the Prophet, his marriage is doomed to fail. Respect and trust have been laid as the foundations of a shaadi. The husband is specially asked to be patient to his wife and her needs. His ego should never come in between the needs of his wife. Apart from this, he is to provide for each and every promise made at the time of the Nikah or whenever he made one to his wife. Muslim men in Islam are strictly forbidden from demanding something from their wives that is against Islam. Instead he is asked to spend generously on his wife and that’s considered the best of his deeds. He is not allowed to share his wife’s secrets and everything that she shares with him. What they discuss or talk about is solely their private matter and shouldn’t leave the four walls of their home. It’s sad to see that the wife is owed so many rights in Islam but sadly in this male dominated society she is unable to attain all of them.
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