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Just like the typical setting in our mind, it is really stressful to know that one day, you are going to meet and go out on a date with the person you used to chat with only. How would you be impressive? What would you do so that it will not be your first and last date? Confidence says it all. When that day comes, all you need to have is the reliance in your self and the thought that things will be dealt with naturally. Pretensions are never helpful. Do not put much pressure on your self and on your date. Treat it as a night of fun no matter what your purpose is- whether you are looking for a night of excitement or hoping to meet your partner for good, you just have to deal with the date with enthusiasm and not many expectations from your date. You just have to enjoy the company of the person with you. It is only the first- so, whatever happens next depends on both of you. Confidence could be derived from mind conditioning. When you think that you are a person of confidence, it is surely to exude. Could you imagine these people who arrive in a party with all people turning their head just to have a look at that man or woman? You do not have to be very beautiful or be very sexy just to achieve confidence. When you are confident, everything beautiful and sexy follows. Being insecure is never good When you feel this way, try to divert your attention. Ask your date questions about her. With that, you can somehow evade the situation where you have to answer questions. To make a more exciting date and keep your self away from the questions you are not comfortable with, it would be wonderful if you find a similar interest between the two of you and go out. Trying the things or activities together would be very interesting. You could talk about your past experiences about those happenings. The grand object for which a gentleman exists, is to excel in company. Conversation is the mean of his distinction, the drawing-room the scene of his glory. In company, though none are "free," yet all are "equal." All therefore whom you meet, should be treated with equal respect, although interest may dictate toward each different degrees of attention. It is disrespectful to the inviter to shun any of her guests. Those whom she has honoured by asking to her house, you should sanction by admitting to your acquaintance. If you meet any one whom you have never heard of before, you may converse with him with entire propriety. The form of "introduction" is nothing more than a statement by a mutual friend that two gentlemen are by rank and manners fit acquaintances for one another. All this may be presumed from the fact, that both meet at a respectable house. This is the theory of the matter. Custom, however, requires that you should take the earliest opportunity afterwards to be regularly presented to such an one. The great business in company is conversation. It should be studied as art. Style in conversation is as important, and as capable of cultivation as style in writing. The manner of saying things is what gives them their value. The most important requisite for succeeding here, is constant and unfaltering attention. Never go into society with your mind en deshabille. It is fatal to success to be all absent or distrait. The secret of conversation has been said to consist in building upon the remark of your companion. Men of the strongest minds, who have solitary habits and bookish dispositions, rarely excel in sprightly colloquy, because they seize upon the thing itself, the subject abstractly, instead of attending to the language of other speakers, and do not cultivate verbal pleasantries and refinements. He who does otherwise gains a reputation for quickness, and pleases by showing that he has regarded the observation of others. It is an error to suppose that conversation consists in talking. A more important thing is to listen discreetly. It is certainly proper enough to convince others of your merits. But the highest idea which you can give a man of your own penetration, is to be thoroughly impressed with his. Patience is a social engine. To listen, to wait, and to he wearied are the certain elements of good fortune. If there be any foreigner present at a dinner party, or small evening party, who does not understand the language which is spoken, good breeding requires that the conversation should be carried on entirely in his language. Even among your most intimate friends, never address any one in a language not understood by all the others. It is as bad as whispering. Never speak to any one in company about a private affair which is not understood by others, as asking how that matter is coming on.... In so doing you indicate your opinion that the rest are de trop. If you wish to make any such inquiries, always explain to others the business about which you inquire, if the subject admit of it. If upon the entrance of a visitor you continue a conversation begun before, you should always explain the subject to the new-comer. If there is any one in the company whom you do not know, be careful how you let off any epigrams or pleasant little sarcasms. You might be very witty upon halters to a man whose father had been hanged. The first requisite for successful conversation is to know your company well. You do not raise yourself much in the opinion of another, if at the same time that you amuse him, you wound him in the nicest point, his self-love. Besides irritating vanity, a constant flow of wit is excessively fatiguing to the listeners. A witty man is an agreeable acquaintance, but a tiresome friend. In addressing any one, always look at him; and if there are several present, you will please more by directing some portion of your conversation, as an anecdote or statement, to each one individually in turn. It is indispensable for conversation to be well acquainted with the current news and the historical events of the last few years. It is not convenient to be quite so far behind the rest of the world in such matters. The top most point to remember is that you are a special person who deserves to be happy. You must never be insecure because we are created with individual strengths, we must flaunt them and be gutsy. With that, we could meet people with self-esteem. 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