It truly is a undeniable fact that many individuals are suffering from a fatal disease. Needless to say the vast majority of individuals straight away think about the typically encountered illnesses like cancer, HIV AIDS, diabetes, influenza and all of the several travesties which are riddling our society. But this condition is a mind-deadening thought condition, you might have heard of it. |
It's known as excusitis. Each failure you know has this disease in its advanced form and I'm guessing that even you have suffered from at least a really serious bout of "24 hour excusitis". Why is this fatal, you ask, and I reply that it may spiral one down into a spirit of avoidance that kills you. You might not in reality be placed in the grave yet, but how some people are strolling around already dead?! Their body just does not know it yet, but they are void of hope, enthusiasm, joy, ambition, success and the many components that make life worth living.
In fact all the similar excuses made by any mediocre or failing person could even be made by the winning person.... but they are not. Yes, the winning examples are also busy, also have household issues, disasters and crises sometimes hit their lives, several have actual physical disabilities or genuine illnesses they are handling and treating, they tire, have obstacles that must be overcome, had no money growing up, didn't have the advantages of the top schools. Winston Churchill was in a prisoner of war camp at one stage, President Roosevelt could have hidden behind his lifeless legs and being wheelchair bound, Richard Branson could have used failed businesses and deals that bankrupted him as an alibi. Lance Armstrong regardless of recent discoveries of unethical behaviour, could have hidden behind his cancer. I necessarily mean, let's be honest, could you have won the Tour de France seven times even with the many performance enhancing substances?
In many situations when people discover that they are not performing as they had anticipated or not reaching the outcomes which are necessary, they begin to look for an alibi that can assist them to save face. Every single time they use that excuse the problem becomes increasingly embedded in their minds until they really start to believe it and they start to rely on it all of the time. Have I explained that your sub-conscious mind has no decision making process. It believes everything you tell it! So if you're continually telling people that you're too sick, or very young, or very old, or very broke, well your subconscious mind is part of that conversation and it believes you. The more frequently you repeat it, the more your subconscious mind becomes convinced it's true. We need to vaccinate ourselves against this disease of failure - excusitis.
Probably the most common excuses that people like to use will be categorised relatively easily. Firstly, health is often a fabulous excuse and it may have a tendency to buy you some sympathy at the same time. Nevertheless, I want you to consider on one particular fact for a moment - the perfect human body is non-existent in these modern times. Absolutely everybody has something which they could use as an excuse, and many surrender in whole or in part to their maladies. In fact Dr. Schindler in his book How to Live 365 Days a Year, remarks that 75% of individuals who are sick could be well if they learn how to manage their emotions. Decide to live till you die. To use a name that's in the limelight to some extent for the present, I think that Oscar Pistorius in his athletic career is a great case in point of how the right attitude and no legs will beat the incorrect attitude and legs any day. Try to keep your mind focussed on his athletic career please!
How can we heal ourselves of health excusitis? Refuse to speak about your health. To keep bringing up your health in conversat will certainly start to feel that you just may also be suffering from a case of acute hypochondria. It bores individuals. Then make a decision to stop worrying about your health. Exercise some self control. Just because you have had a health problem doesn't mean you've to keep getting cardiograms or X-rays. Comply with your treatment as prescribed by your health professionals and then have confidence in them that the job is done. Often worry can exasperate a ailment more than everything. Next, begin to be sincerely grateful that that you are as healthy as you are and lastly ascertain that it's far better to wear out than to seize up. Life is yours to live - enjoy it and never waste it.
The subsequent category of failure disease is IQ excusitis. Far too many people are convinced that they are just not clever enough, however unlike health excusitis that do not bring it up in conversation. They just sense it in their core. Often they are intimidated by other individuals in their career or area of interest but they usually make a critical error in two areas: 1) We vastly underestimate the power of our own brain; 2) We overestimate the other persons brainpower. The most significant aspect they've completely missed: The thinking and attitudes that guide your intelligence, is a lot more important than the amount of intelligence itself. Teachers will frequently let you know about the kid who was potentially the brightest but he was just very lazy or unmotivated or bored or intimidates to get the good results he deserved. Just sufficient sense to persist with something, anything, till it is finished has far more value than intelligence that does not get off the couch!
You can be brilliant at absolutely anything at all if you've got the interest and also the enthusiasm. I heard it claimed once that if a person had read three books on any one topic it qualified them as an expert. I liked that sort of thinking and that i do believe it true in most situations.
Also modern day technologies drastically levels the playing field. Einstein was once asked how many feet are in the mile? He replied "I do not know. Why must I fill my brain with details which I can glean in moments from any basic reference book?" With the internet today, those moments is often milliseconds. Knowledge is not power, it really is how you use that knowledge that creates power. Use your mind to think instead of just use it as a warehouse for facts. But thinking may be the hardest work somebody can do, which is why so few people will do it. Solve problems, think up ideas, dream, and then put it into practise. The last part is what many really intelligent people don't do.
Should you suffer from this form of the disease there may be pleanty of hope for you as it’s simple to cure. Place yours and other people’s intelligence in their correct perspective. You are not as dumb as you think - keep in mind all your earlier successes, plus the other person is probably not as bright as you would like to believe either. Then, bear in mind your positive attitudes are more important than brainpower anyway. Being able to actually think is a greater asset than merely retaining facts - unless you want to make a career of entering TV gameshows.
Next on the popularity poll, will be the excuse of age. Far too old, much too young - it will come from different directions. "I've missed the boat". "I do not have credibility yet because of being fresh out of school". Let's cease right here and address the people that believe they're "past it". I'm not going to use up your time seeking to persuade them that they're as young as they feel. That is just a cliche that implies nothing at all to anybody. Begin by asking them when they really feel a person's productive age comes to an end. If they are really serious they will are likely to give an answer of about at least 70 to 75 years of age if that person stays in shape. Then find out from them when they think it begins. Chances are they'll guess at about 20 relying on studies or college. Now what ever your age, give attention to how many years you have left. Anybody below 45 hasn't even got to the half way point yet. Your attitude towards your age may be the important element and you may make it a blessing or even a curse. When someone can beat the ailment of using age as the excuse you will gain the positive hope and feeling of being young. When I studied at university there was a lady of over fifty in several of my courses who went back to university and passed a degree in a completely different career path than the one she had previously. Occasionally I wonder how I would have completed in my degree if I only started it now in my forties, knowing what I know and having experienced a full career. I'm guessing it could be a lot simpler than it was for me back then. Fresh out of school at university I made countless mistakes, had a great number of doubts, so little discipline, and was so easily intimidated. I'm optimistic I would do much better now.
If however, you're feeling you may be too young. I can inform you that you just have to know a number of things. Firstly, in the event you lived on an actual farm a boy grew to become a man when he proved he could do the work of a man. I've heard Angus Beuchanan say "When a boy can ride a horse and shoot a gun - he's a man".
You youngsters, or must I say "us" youngsters really should understand that once we prove we're capable of doing the undertaking the greatest, under true leadership, you're going to get it irrespective of what your age. Lastly, get accustomed to having older people working for you. Leaders in all fields find that they have a person older than themselves working for them but admire them. Never be a dictator, ask their views, get their ideas, and let them feel like they are really a part of a team. Being a final word on age - devote time in what you love the most. Life is longer than many people imagine.
The final sort of excusitis is luck excusitis. "Very little ever works for me." "You really don't understand, I'm jinxed." Philosophers have always stated, "there is a cause for everything". There isn't a such thing as an actual accident. It's often brought on by something. On a roads mishaps would be attributed to mechanical failure, driver error, weather conditions, excessive speed and a variety of other causes. Those people who superstitiously cling to their failure as them attracting bad luck have to merely work out what is the cause. People will not succeed due to luck. Even to be in the right place at the right time, you had to place your self there. People never get promoted because of luck. Undoubtedly some of the other staff members will say it was luck but quite simply they were just far better qualified to complete the job. Top executives tend not to choose senior positions by pulling names out of a bag. Can you picture if a huge organisation like Microsoft or Apple had to reorganise itself depending on luck. Each and every industry or company you know would totally fall apart if it based its success on chance.
Gary Player, the famous golfer once said, "It is funny, the more I practice the luckier I get!" Get real - it really is not luck or lack thereof. Stop wanting to dream up the effortless strategy to success. It is just wishful thinking. No person who accomplished anything successful did without any work whatsoever and you'll find those that have had every thing fall into their lap on a silver plate but they lost it all because they were inactive with it.
You can be cured of this life threatening disease. The steps above are easy and you also now know how. We wish you all blessings for your new direction to mental health.
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An attorney runs a stop sign and gets pulled over by a sheriff. He thinks he's smarter being a big shot legal professional from New York and has a better education than an sheriff from West Virginia. The sheriff asks for license and registration. The lawyer asks, "What for?" The sheriff responds, "You didn't come to a complete stop at the stop sign." The lawyer says, "I slowed down and no one was coming." "You however failed to come to a complete stop. License and registration please," say the sheriff impatiently. The legal professional says, "If you can show me the legal distinction between slow down and stop, I will give you my license and registration and you'll be able to give me the ticket. If not, you let me go and do not give me the ticket." The sheriff says, "That seems fair, please exit your vehicle." The attorney steps out and the sheriff takes out his nightstick and begins beating the legal professional with it. The sheriff says, "Do you want me to stop or just slow down?"
At times we forget that we have a choice with the things we do and decide. We possess the ability to go down and hide behind excuses but it comes a time were one has to stop, clean up the dust and stand up and cease making excuses. You are a fighter and can 'roar' as well to the excusitis disease and rise up to be the champion that you. are
Author: Paul Johnson, The M.D. of Movers & Shakers, a Motivation & Team Building activities company in South Africa. View website: www.moversandshakers.co.za
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