11 Marriage Lies Marriage has numerous enemies, if they don’t come from the normal side….from outside the marriage they will emanate from within the parties to that particular marriage. Such that it is of paramount importance for the parties to the marriage relationship to make sure that their single decisions to the marriage need to be obliged to be scriptural and biblical. Because if ever one of the parties to the marriage relationship so does act unwisely and unscriptural, those decisions could be used by the enemies of true marriage to drown that marriage. And having said that, I would like to bring to our attention that there are LIES every part to a marriage need to watch out for, otherwise given the opportunity these lies can definitely destroy your marriage. Let us go through these lies together, they go up to 8 Lies which couples need to stay guard against. Lie #1. “My happiness is the most important thing about my marriage.” I have numerous people justify themselves, as they thought that their individual happiness would have to override whatever it would be that have both parties to the marriage involved. As a pastor, I can’t tell you how many people have justified breaking up their marriages by saying, “I have to do this. God just wants me to be happy.” I want to bring to our attention that those words are ungodly and not from God. But according to God’s Word, a spouse’s individual happiness is not the purpose for marriage. The Bible says in Colossians 3:17: “Whatever you do in word or deed,” do for the glory of God. While all parts of creation are to glorify God, mankind was made in God’s very image. Through marriage, husbands and wives are to reflect His character and have children who will reflect His character … all the way to the end of time. Every marriage knows unhappiness. Every marriage knows conflict. Every marriage knows difficulty. But everyone can be joyful in their marriage by focusing on God’s purposes and His glory instead of individual happiness. It is here where everyone in the relationship, is supposed to die to self-happiness so as to allow God`s will in that marriage to be fulfilled Lie #2. “If I don’t love my spouse any longer, I should get a divorce.” It’s a tragedy to lose love in marriage. But the loss of human love can teach us to access a deeper love — the very love of God Himself. That love is patient and kind … it never fails (1 Corinthians 13). It even cares for its enemies. When human love dies in a marriage, a couple can enter into one of the most exciting adventures they’ll ever have: learning how to love each other with God’s love. Romans 5:5 tells us that this very love “has been poured out within our hearts, through the Holy Spirit.” Lie #3. “My private immorality does not affect my marriage.” A lot of people think, I can view pornography in the privacy of my home. It’s just me and my magazine, or computer … it doesn’t affect my marriage. Oneness in marriage is hijacked by sexual immorality. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 6:15, “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take away the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute?” In the 21st century, there are many ways to join oneself with a prostitute: physically, through the pages of a magazine, on a computer’s video screen, etc. Paul’s advice is the same today as it was thousands of years ago: Flee immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). If you take your emotional and sexual energy and spend it on someone else, there will be nothing left for your spouse. Those who continually view pornography or engage in sexual fantasies are isolating themselves. And by the time they come to their spouses they will be exhausted and strength withdrawn. This is reason why the other parties to the marriage are tired and show signs of lack of interest when it comes to times of intimacy with their spouses. To Read More Go To - COMPLETE SAVE MARRIAGEOF THIS GENERATION BLUEPRINT.COM
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