Everyone has phases in their life when they feel lonely, especially if they are different or unwilling or unable to conform and follow the herd. |
For example, for spiritually sensitive people, who see the world differently and often perceive what most other people don’t (e.g, the truth behind appearances), it’s harder to connect with people because socializing can be overwhelming and exhausting.
Your love life, or a lack of one, can make you feel lonely too. Contrary to popular belief, however, not all singles are lonely; many would rather be single than stuck in a bad or unfulfilling relationship, and you can still feel lonely in a relationship.
It’s important to realize that being alone does not equal lonely. Alone time is important for your emotional and spiritual health, and to recharge, especially if you’re an introvert.
17 Ways to Cope With Loneliness
Focus on your spiritual side. Daily meditation will help you connect with your Higher Self, guides of the Light, God (or whomever you pray to or ask for spiritual help from). Once you realize that you are never truly alone, loneliness is easier to deal with.
Reflect on what you feel you need to soothe your loneliness. Is it a partner, interaction with a neighbor, a friend, a better relationship with a family member, a conversation with someone, or an intimate connection? Once you are clear about it, take steps to reach the goal. Even if you don’t get what you want right away, taking action will probably make you feel better.
Examine the root cause of your loneliness. For those of you who are spiritually adventurous, using past life regression to go back to the root cause of your loneliness (or any other problem) can be extremely enlightening and liberating.
Do a Spiritual Detox. It’s easy to pick up lost souls or dark energy that might be dragging you down and contributing to your feeling of loneliness.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself and learn to be content alone. Treating yourself well and finding solo hobbies and projects you enjoy makes this easier.
Consider getting a pet for unconditional love and acceptance, but only if you have the time, space, and money to care for it properly.
Join a group. A group such as those found on Meetup.com can be a good experience. Groups are better for extroverts who are energized by being around people; introverts need to be more selective about who they hang around or they’ll just feel drained and possibly even more lonely.
Volunteer your time. For example, read to people in nursing homes. In addition to feeling good about helping others, the experience will make you feel very grateful that, while you might feel lonely as many in nursing homes do, at least you are young and healthy enough to take care of yourself and leave your home whenever you want.
Change your perspective of what you think your friends should be like. School age kids tend to flock to people more like themselves. As you get older you realize you might have a lot in common with someone who may seem too different at first glance. From a spiritual perspective, everyone you know now you’ve known before in past lives. Sometimes the exterior appearance is misleading, so be open to friendships with all kinds of people.
Be less judgmental of people. You might be creating barriers between yourself and potential friends by judging them. When you accept that everyone is different, no one is perfect, and we’re all in this together, it’s easier to feel connected to people.
Realize it’s better to be alone than to wish you were alone. If you’re single and lonely, be grateful you’re not stuck in a bad relationship. You wouldn’t know it by looking at your Facebook feed, but relationships that are draining, one-sided and extremely sacrificial, deteriorating, long over, or illusion based are far more common than people realize.
Avoid Facebook when you feel lonely. While reading through Facebook posts from your “friends,” it’s easy to think that you’re the only one not living a fabulous life. Most people only share the happy, social side of their lives, not their fears, mistakes, and embarrassments.
Share what you know. Finding a way to help others with your expertise or whatever you are good at will make you feel better, and you might even make some new friends in the process.
Accept it and don’t feel guilty if you prefer to be alone sometimes and not be bothered by all the social games people play.
Make changes if you are depressed. Not feeling like socializing can be the result of depression, which will magnify loneliness, which then further adds to depression. Medication can be helpful for extreme cases, but advances in the understanding of depression, and healthier ways to treat it, offer new hope.
Take care of yourself. Avoid self-medicating with booze, drugs, or excess food, which will multiply your negative feelings. A healthy diet and daily exercise is essential for having the energy to feel your best so you can not only deal with loneliness, but also be a shining light to which others are drawn.
Don’t take life too seriously. Yes, we’ve all incarnated to work through karma and learn, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun along the way too.
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