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1. Pick up where you left off on a positive note. This may be a situation that goes way back in time, but at the same time you can use those possibly long forgotten situations, temporarily recall them and how well they did go. This is like bringing out an old song and record and not only revisiting and recanting but launching anew. So for example, I haven’t really hiked high mountain terrain recently, try to remember and recall how you did traverse some pretty intense trails in a National Park and you can use those memories as your lift off point. 2. It might have been that you would have ended up in this position, even if things went right previously. Things actually could have gone great for you through these earlier points and at this point that they did is only maybe imaginary and you don’t have the same muscle memory available as for someone for whom things had gone well. But take for example financial shortfalls, it might have been that you had a lot of wealth and quickly lost it and here you are. Therefore you would still have to work through these present realities of not having much money in the same ways as you have to now even though you never really had the money. There was no guarantee or shield that what you might have been able to obtain would have prevented this current situation even if you originally had the wealth. You can start again feeling that this shortness of wealth might not have been something you could have shielded yourself from regardless. This can eliminate or lessen some of the pangs of consciousness of being in this situation in the first place and thereby clearing the deck a bit for new attempts or new approaches. 3. Feelings of inferiority or superiority have close links at times. There are the realities of feeling inferior that cloud an already difficult situation. Even if you are inferior and you are correct about that, that does not mean you still can’t to a degree suspend your judgment or allow your to reopen your judgment on that analysis. But it is also normal to try and get away from situations that play further into the feelings of inferiority and this can be necessary avoidance. But then the avoidance gets carried through past what should be avoided and you end up to far into an avoidance mentality and so far past the points of original things to avoid and into long roads of avoidance. This is also the breeding ground potentially for further feelings of inferiority. There is no reason to wholly subscribe to avoidance even though the instinct to go in this direction was somewhat correct, as the original correct idea off avoidance can easily get carried into things that are unrelated. Then there is the correlate of feeling superior or thinking superior. It isn’t wrong to go into that thinking either, you might have a superior approach or ideas compared to what’s out there now. At the same time, if you maintain this, and believe this, you might not want to find out that this isn’t quite as true as you thought. So you don’t explore the situation because you might find that you aren’t as great as you think you were. So there is a type of avoidance to ensure that your image of being great isn’t diluted or compromised by going heavy duty into something and finding out the you don’t quite fit the measurements of greatness that you envisioned for yourself in this area. It might be better to leave the situation more as a blank page and then try to make your pronouncements as to what actually is and is represented a little further on down the road. 4. You need to allow for corrections in new situations as they arrive. Unfortunately, you aren’t in the best of position right now and something new has to be sought and tried out. While doing this, the hard driving mentality is that I need to get this right or else. But since you have already lost out, why is there even more demands put on the new? There is the expression out there, you have nothing to lose. Especially if you already lost. What you don’t want to do is lose and then shelter in on your losses. Well, I am here, I lost and I’ll just set up my cocoon here. Since you have lost so much, why set up the cocoon around the loss? Then you’re not only in the situation, but you are also allowing the sharks to surround you in this lousy situation. One of the ways we envelop losses is not allowing for moments away from these losses where the footing isn’t quite sure and corrections will need to be made within these uncertain steps. Take for example a new relationship, which involves someone else. You don’t want to wrap around the disappointments of the previous relationship and bring them forward and then not allow for making some mistakes that need to be corrected in the newer situation. Drop the bag of the past if it is still cornering you. 5. There is too much of the philosophy of the end. One way to help get away from this is to vary your routine and approaches. This is where hard driving approaches to wanted success, taking to the maximum can and does often backfire. Even with diligence, try to back away in whatever ways you can a bit, even towards your own hard earned philosophy which doesn’t necessarily have the 100 percent truest resonance and ring in all the hallways of what is possible. Your belief system might be limiting you on some ends of your potential. Your not reaching for potential possibilities because of beliefs that are for you somewhat limiting. So you compensate by driving to hard into focuses that are supposed to have a certain payoff, but in fact that is still only theory that doesn’t have to be fully and always subscribed to. You can bring things down a lot, for example the idea of not watching TV but you don’t have to bring things to a standstill. For example, some people feel they should be reading the financial pages first, before going to that great novel. So then the go further on when time is short into not reading any novels, thereby bringing their reading of novels to the end. This is bad because it brings in another small way the philosophy of the end. It doesn’t have to go that far, especially when you aren’t being rewarded enough for bringing things to an end as far as your reading of novels. The compensation of only reading the financial' s with your limited time hasn’t gotten you the best buys on the stocks necessarily. It would have been better to keep the variability of reading an occasional novel in there instead of bringing the idea to a complete halt. <
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