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By Jim DeSantis So often we hear the statistic - "more than half of all marriages end in divorce". And, it is true. But, why? Does it have to be this way? Is there no escaping it? Yes, you can escape it. The 100% Solution is how to escape being one of the 50% that end in divorce. We have also heard - "marriage is a 50-50 proposition". Really? In fact, successful marriages are a 100-100 proposition. This means I accept my mate 100% and she accepts me 100%. We allow the person on the inside to be the person on the outside, completely exposed. Absolutely nothing is hidden. Nothing is kept secret. No walls between us. No manipulation. And, most of all, No Expectations of certain behavior. The 50-50 solution implies you and your mate are holding back 50% from the relationship. This doesn't work - ever. But, you might say - "you don't know what he/she had done to me", "he/she is a liar", "I can't trust him/her". May I boldly say - "Get over it". If you want your marriage to prosper, you must put away the past and start fresh because, honestly, you aren't perfect either. No one is the perfect wife or perfect husband or perfect mate. No one is without "sin", so-to-speak. No one does everything perfectly in relationships. Now, this does NOT mean you stay with a mate who is physically or emotionally abusing you. Do not be anyone's punching bag. Get away as fast as you can and get help. How do I know The 100% Solution works? My wife and I have lived the 50-50 solution and we both ended in divorce from our former mates. When we married each other we had some rough spots in the beginning because we both were playing by the old 50-50 solution. Then we discovered The 100% Solution. We have been happily living The 100% Solution for over 10 years with no stress in our marriage and no arguments. When we don't agree on a course of action, we don't do it. It's simple. Why do something your partner doesn't agree with? Why create stress? Support your partner 100% and they will support you. So, what exactly is The 100% Solution? First, I will give it to you and then tell you where we found it. As you read it, you just might recognize it. Here it is. 1) Love is patient. 2) Love is kind. 3) Love does not envy and is not pretentious. It is not ambitious or self seeking. 4) Love bears with all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. 5) Love keeps no record of wrongs - it does not delight in evil, but rejoices in truth. 6) Love is the eternal tie that binds us. And we have added - Love never criticizes, condemns, or complains. Do you recognize it? We found The 100% Solution in the Bible in 1st Corinthians - Chapter 13. We have been living it successfully because we determined to put the past behind us and create a new future - together. If you are not interested in the Bible, another helpful resource is the book - "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by John Gray, PhD. We read this book together and discovered a few little personality quirks we were not aware of. It was a great help. You can get it from any major bookstore and on-line. Try The 100% Solution and we know your marriage will be bliss. About the Author: Jim DeSantis is a veteran Journalist providing trusted information on Marriage. Subscribe to Jim's Marriage Matters Blog! or browse Jim's Newsman's Links for lots of Free Resources!
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