There are different opinions about serious relationships. Some people think that serious relationships are when both have strong feelings for each other. Others stated that it’s when both care about each other rather than thinking only about himself/herself.
We think that serious relationships are when both parties have serious intentions and they lead to long lasting perspectives. It is wonderful when people love and care about each other. But that can last 1 year or 1 month or even 1 week.
How to find a girlfriend for serious relationship
Before you start searching for a girlfriend, you first have to understand whether you really need a serious relationship. The thing is that if you don’t want it or if you are not ready for it, you will not make it.
Some people do this because it’s socially right. However, forcing yourself just because society or parents or friends think so, is a bad idea.
But let’s imagine you are ready. Start with finding the right girlfriend. Try to identify your needs and expectations. Also visit the places where potentially she may appear. It can be bar for funny and matey girl, bookstore for serious and educated one or simply go online.
Here is the nice and detailed article: How to find a girlfriend in 2020.
How to Start a Conversation
This paragraph is for guys. We are certain that they have to be the initiators of the first contact. Remember, that you don’t have to impress her right away. It can backfire. You just need to break the ice. Therefore, if you see her in a cafe or grocery store you should simply say hello and ask an innocent question.
Something like “Hi! Do you happen to know....” or “Hello, I was wondering...” will work.
If she smiles and kindly responds you can add some flirting. Here is a nice article: How to flirt with a girl in 2020.
How to Ask her out
Don’t be too pushy. You shouldn’t ask her for the first date right away. You don’t want to scare her away, right? Also, keep in mind that you are looking for a serious relationship. Hence, just ask for her number or a Facebook (which is even better).
Social media is a strong and powerful tool. Add her on Facebook, like and comment on her posts. It’s socially acceptable and it’s certainly a way of communication.
When you feel a friendly attitude from her side just offer her to go out to grab a cup of coffee or have lunch some time next week.
The best way to spend your first date is to make it casual. It should not look like an official date. Grab some coffee, go for a walk in the park, have some beer (if you both like it).
Here you just need to carefully test the waters. Learn each other and see if you fit. If you like each other agree upon meeting some time at movies or on a lunch.
The second date is a super important one. I would say it may be even more important than the first one. The thing is that on the first date people are a little but constrained. On the second date they are more “unfold”.
So, be attentive on the second date. Here most likely you will learn even more than on the 1st date.
Also, according to Stanford's social research, the first kiss will happen on the 2nd date. Guys should be prepared, cause girls take it seriously.
Third Date and Next dates
If you came to the third date you can officially call it a relationship. You can visit a good restaurant or have dinner in your flat. Have some good wine with a romantic music.
Statistically the first sex will happen on the 3rd date. But of course it does not mean you should focus on it. Some couples have their first sex on the 1st date and others on the 7th. So let it flow naturally.
Here is the great article: What to do on the third date in 2020.
Try to arrange all your next dates in different places and under different conditions. For example, you should visit a theater and ride bikes, go to the sea and stay in some hotel. Try to reveal your partner in different situations.
Marriage in serious relationship
According to above mentioned Stanford’s research successful couples get married after 1.5 - 1.8 years of dating. It helps to learn each other properly and at the same time not to delay a serious step. Yes, if you have serious intentions you will not delay this.
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