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When you're not sure how to approach women the right way, you're constantly missing out on possibilities. Very few guys fully understand how to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, interesting way that creates a powerful REASON for women to want to know them and take things further. Whenever you see a beautiful woman, you can assume that the last 29 guys who attempted to approach her -- whether it was at the bar, the gym, or on the street -- sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her "force field" to go on high alert. When this happens, she's going to start looking for an excuse to end the interaction as soon as possible. She may indulge you with a few minutes of polite conversation and then blow you off gently ("It's been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend"), or perhaps she'll blow you off instantly by mentioning that she has a boyfriend. However she decides to handle it, the bottom line is that this conversation isn't leading anywhere -- certainly not to your bedroom! So now, here are three of the WORST mistakes that guys make when they to try approach women, and some advce on how to avoid these mistakes and get good, consistent results. Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Asking a girl for "permission" to speak with her. This means you must eliminate from your vocabulary phrases such as: "Pardon me, would you mind telling me your name?" "Excuse me, would you mind if I asked you something? "Can I buy you a drink?" Starting a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. In her eyes, you are a random stranger and you WANT something from her. When you look at it from this perspective, obviously this isn't a position ANYONE wants to be put in. Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you'll expect in return: you'll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When a guy offers to buy a drink for a girl he just walked up to, what he's really doing is trying to BRIBE her (with a drink) into giving her time to him. Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? No way. There's a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it -- and it's certainly not in the first 30 seconds. One of the rules of effective conversation is for you to stay in control at all times. You maintain the "power position" and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to "invisibly" guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her passions, ambitions and talents) that she'd normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago. This is when women begin to feel attraction, and you're on your way to success. But let's start from the beginning. The first "key" to maintaining your power and control is NOT starting the conversation from a position of weakness. And once of the weakest ways to begin a conversation is to ask permission to talk to her. Don't do it. Here's the second "Deadly" mistake that guys make when they approach women: Not assuming rapport. When two people have "rapport" it means they're comfortable with each other and have stuff in common. They're talking to each other as if they've been friends forever -- playing around, laughing, chatting about subjects of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview. When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the "conversation" seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: "So what's your name?" "Are you from around here?" "So what do you do for work?" Etc. He could be having this same conversation with his dentist! On the flip side of the coin, guys who are really confident around women have a tendency to ASSUME rapport with them. He doesn't bother with the boring "getting to know you" questions. Right from the start, he's joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination. By showing her that he's a high-value guy who is friendly and fun to talk to, but obviously has high standards, he makes her feel the need to prove HERSELF worthy. Even in the first few minutes he's showing her that he's a fun, dynamic, interesting guy who leads an attractive lifestyle. Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy. Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to "open" her). Actually, what you follow up with is far more important -- how you transition into the conversation and keep it moving forward. At that point, you can use a variety of techniques including Cold Reads, Hooks & Ladders, and Hypothetcials to make sure you NEVER "run out of steam" during the conversation. In short, you've got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different "emotional buttons." For example, building comfort is a significant early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven't made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important. Once you have established comfort, you'll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is "hard to get." You're going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they're up to HER standards.) Next comes Escalation (both verbal and physical), and finally there is The Close.. Depending on the situation, this could mean getting her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than ignoring your calls), or taking her home that night. So few guys understand how to "close" successfully. Mastering the art of approaching women and following this process means the difference between meeting new women from time to time, but never getting the chance to sleep with them -- or ever seeing them again -- and having the rocking Alpha Male sex life that most guys can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with hot, exciting women. It means that literally anytime you leave your home -- whether it's to run errands, or to hit a bar or nightclub with your friends -- you'll look for opportunities to approach women and have fun interactions, instead of this being something you shy away from, or stress out over. Now it’s time to take it to the next level, and show you how to use these tactics to have SEX with as many beautiful women as you desire. Right now, Mack Tactics is giving away a FREE book that shows you how to pick up girls in virtually any situation. Click here to download this free manual for a limited time: How To Get Girls - The Mack Tactics Manual
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