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How confident are you in your ability to approach a random gorgeous woman and get her interested in talking to you? If you don't possess this ability, you're letting opportunities pass you by every day. Very few guys know precisely how to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, interesting way that creates a powerful REASON for women to want to know them and take things further. When you spot a hot girl, you can assume that the last 29 dudes who attempted to approach her -- whether it was at the bar, the park, or on the street -- sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her "force field" to go on high alert. When this happens, she's going to start looking for an excuse to end the interaction as soon as possible. She may indulge you with a few minutes of polite conversation and then blow you off gently ("It's been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend"), or perhaps she'll blow you off instantly by mentioning that she has a boyfriend. Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it's very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere. So now I want to explain the three most "lethal" mistakes that guys make when attempting to approach women, and some advce on how to avoid these mistakes and get good, consistent results. Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Acting like you need "permission" to speak to her. When starting an interaction with a woman, never use phrases such as: "Excuse me, may I know your name?" "Hi, do you mind if I ask you something?" "Can I buy you a drink?" Starting a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. In her eyes, you are a random stranger and you WANT something from her. When you look at it from this perspective, obviously this isn't a position ANYONE wants to be put in. Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you'll expect in return: you'll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When you offer to buy a drink for a woman you don't even know, you're basically attempting to bribe her into granting you some of her time. Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Not a chance. There's a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it -- and it's certainly not in the first 30 seconds. One of the basic principles of talking to women effectively is that you've got to stay in control of the interaction. You maintain the "power position" and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to "invisibly" guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her talents, goals and passions) that she'd normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago. This is when women begin to feel attraction, and you're on your way to success. But let's start from the beginning. The first "key" to maintaining your power and control is NOT starting the conversation from a position of weakness. Asking permission is a surefire way to blow the conversation before it even begins. Don't do it. Deadly Approach Mistake #2: You must assume rapport. When two people have "rapport" it means they're comfortable with each other and have things in common. They're talking to each other as if they've been friends forever -- playing around, laughing, chatting about subjects of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview. Watch a guy with lousy approach skills start a conversation with a woman, and you'll notice that he almost always starts asking questions: "So what's your name?" "Are you from around here?" "So what do you do for work?" Etc. He could be having this same conversation with his dentist! On the flip side of the coin, guys who are really confident around women have a tendency to ASSUME rapport with them. These guys don't see any need to waste time asking a bunch of boring questions about where she's from, has she been to this place before, etc. Right from the start, he's joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination. He makes her feel invested in the conversation, and she'll want to show that she can keep up with him. Even in the first few minutes he's showing her that he's a fun, dynamic, interesting guy who leads an attractive lifestyle. Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy. Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to "open" her). Actually, what you follow up with is far more important -- how you transition into the conversation and keep it moving forward. At that point, you can use a variety of techniques including Cold Reads, Hooks & Ladders, and Hypothetcials to make sure you NEVER "run out of steam" during the conversation. In short, you've got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different "emotional buttons." For example, building comfort is a vital early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven't made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important. Next, once comfort has been established, you'll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is "hard to get." You're going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they're up to HER standards.) Then comes the Escalation stage, and finally there is The Close. Depending on the situation, this could mean scoring her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than blowing off your calls), or taking her home and nailing her that evening. So few guys understand how to "close" successfully. Mastering the art of approaching women and following this process means the difference between meeting new women from time to time, but never getting the chance to sleep with them -- or ever seeing them again -- and having the "rock star sex life" that most men can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with fun, beautiful women. Building rock-solid "approach game" means that every time you leave home -- whether it's to shop at the mall, or to hang out at a bar with your friends -- you'll jump on opportunities to meet new, hot women and you'll enjoy every interaction. Starting conversations with hot girls, and controlling those conversations so that they develop feelings of ATTRACTION, will be a part of your new lifestyle. Now I want to give you my bulletproof, sure-fire techniques for “closing the deal.” For a limited time, you can download our free manual on how to pick up girls and you’ll learn how the world’s best seducers and pickup artists close the deal FAST, every time! Click here for your free Mack Tactics book: Free Guide To Picking Up Girls
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