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How confident are you in your ability to approach a random hot woman and get her interested in talking to you? If you don't have this skill set, you're letting opportunities pass you by every day. Very few guys comprehend best way to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, interesting way that creates a powerful REASON for women to want to know them and take things further. When you spot a hot girl, you can assume that the last 29 guys who attempted to approach her -- whether it was at the bar, the gym, or on the street -- sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her "force field" to go on high alert. At that point, she's going to look for a reason to end the interaction as soon as possible. She may indulge you with a few minutes of polite conversation and then blow you off gently ("It's been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend"), or perhaps she'll blow you off instantly by mentioning that she has a boyfriend. Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it's very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere. So now I want to explain the three most "lethal" mistakes that guys make when attempting to approach women, and some advce on how to avoid these mistakes and get good, consistent results. Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Asking permission to talk to her. This means you must eliminate from your vocabulary phrases such as: "Pardon me, would you mind telling me your name?" "Excuse me, would you mind if I asked you something?" "Can I buy you a drink?" Starting a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. From her point of view, you're some random stranger who WANTS something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in. By the way, offering to buy a girl a drink might sound as if you're trying to give her something -- not take something from her. But what you're actually trying to do is take her TIME. When a guy offers to buy a drink for a girl he just walked up to, what he's really doing is trying to BRIBE her (with a drink) into giving her time to him. Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Not a chance. There's a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it -- and it's certainly not in the first 30 seconds. One of the rules of effective conversation is for you to stay in control at all times. You maintain the "power position" and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to "invisibly" guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her talents, goals and passions) that she'd normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago. At this point, a girl is going to start feeling attraction -- and this is when you're on the right track. The first key to maintaining this sense of power and control is NOT starting the conversation in a weak, uncertain manner. And once of the weakest ways to begin a conversation is to ask permission to talk to her. Never ask permision. Assume that she'll be totally interested in meeting you. Here's the second "Deadly" mistake that guys make when they approach women: Not assuming rapport. When two people have "rapport" it means they're comfortable with each other and have stuff in common. They vibe with each other in the manner of old friends -- joking around, having fun, talking about topics of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview. When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the "conversation" seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: "So what's your name?" "Are you from around here?" "So what do you do for work?" Etc. He could be having this same conversation with his dentist! On the flip side of the coin, guys who are really confident around women have a tendency to ASSUME rapport with them. He doesn't bother with the boring "getting to know you" questions. From the beginning, he's playing around with her (as if he's known her for a lot longer than he really has) -- teasing her in a playful way, asking fun questions, telling short little stories that demonstrate his VALUE and make her smile and view him in a positive way. By showing her that he's a high-value guy who is cool, friendly but NOT easily impressed, he makes her feel the need to prove HERSELF worthy. Even within the space of the first few minutes of conversation, this guy is showing her that he's an interesting, dynamic guy who clearly has a lot of OPTIONS, He leads an attractive lifestyle, and she's going to want to be a part of it. The final "Deadly Approach Mistake" is not having a game plan when you go into the conversation, and not having an "exit strategy" (or "closing strategy") either. Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to "open" her). Actually, how you FOLLOW UP your opener is of much greater importance -- how you transition into the conversation and get it flowing. From there, you'll want to use techniques of mine such as Hypotheticals, Advanced Cold Reads, and Hooks & Ladders (my method for making sure the conversation NEVER runs out of steam). In short, you've got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different "emotional buttons." For example, building comfort is a vital early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven't made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important. Next, once comfort has been established, you'll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is "hard to get." You're going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they're up to HER standards.) Next comes Escalation (both verbal and physical), and finally there is The Close.. Depending on the situation, this could mean scoring her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than ignoring your calls), or taking her home and nailing her that evening. Unfortunately, VERY few guys really know how to "close" a girl the right way. Mastering the art of approaching women and following this process means the difference between chatting with girls every time you go out but never sleeping with them -- or ever seeing them again -- and having the "rock star sex life" that most men can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with fun, beautiful women. It means that virtually anytime you leave your home -- whether it's to run errands, or to hit a bar or nightclub with your friends -- you'll look for opportunities to approach women and have fun interactions, instead of this being something you shy away from, or stress out over. Now, to move the conversation to the BEDROOM, let me give you the techniques that get me laid every time I go out. For a limited time you can download our free book on how to approach women and make them feel sexual attraction – fast! Click here: The Ultimate Free Guide To Picking Up Girls
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