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How confident are you in your ability to approach a random attractive woman and get her interested in talking to you? If you don't have these skills, you're letting opportunities pass you by every day. Very few guys realize how to approach women and begin conversations in a playful, fun way that creates a powerful REASON for women to want to know them and take things further. When you spot a beautiful woman, you can assume that the last 57 dudes who attempted to approach her -- whether it was at the bar, the park, or on the street -- sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her "force field" to go on high alert. At that point, she's going to look for a reason to end the interaction as soon as possible. She may humor you for a few minutes, answer your questions, and then blow you off politely ("It's been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend"), or perhaps she'll blow you off instantly by mentioning that she has a boyfriend. Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it's very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere. So now I want to explain the three most "lethal" mistakes that guys make when attempting to approach women, and some tips on how to AVOID these traps and get the results you want. Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Acting like you need "permission" to speak to her. This means you must eliminate from your vocabulary phrases such as: "Excuse me, may I know your name?" "Hi, do you mind if I ask you something?" "May I buy a drink for you?" Trying to begin an interaction in this manner puts you at the woman's mercy. In her eyes, you are a random stranger and you WANT something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in. Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you'll expect in return: you'll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When you offer to buy a drink for a woman you don't even know, you're basically attempting to bribe her into granting you some of her time. Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Not a chance. There's a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it -- and it's certainly not in the first 30 seconds. One of the basic principles of talking to women effectively is that you've got to stay in control of the interaction. You maintain the "power position" and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to "invisibly" guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her passions, ambitions and talents) that she'd normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago. This is when women begin to feel attraction, and you're on your way to success. The first key to maintaining this sense of power and control is NOT starting the conversation in a weak, uncertain manner. And once of the weakest ways to begin a conversation is to ask permission to talk to her. Never ask permision. Assume that she'll be totally interested in meeting you. Deadly Approach Mistake #2: Not assuming rapport. When two people have "rapport" it means they're comfortable with each other and have stuff in common. They're talking to each other as if they've been friends forever -- playing around, laughing, chatting about subjects of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview. When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the "conversation" seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: "So what's your name?" "Are you from around here?" "So what do you do for work?" Etc. He could be having this same conversation with his dentist! On the other hand, the guy who is extremely good with women always assumes rapport. He doesn't bother with the boring "getting to know you" questions. From the beginning, he's playing around with her (as if he's known her for a lot longer than he really has) -- teasing her in a playful way, asking fun questions, telling short little stories that demonstrate his VALUE and make her smile and view him in a positive way. By showing her that he's a high-value guy who is cool, friendly but NOT easily impressed, he makes her feel the need to prove HERSELF worthy. Even in the first few minutes he's showing her that he's a fun, dynamic, interesting guy who leads an attractive lifestyle. Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy. Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to "open" her). Actually, what you follow up with is far more important -- how you transition into the conversation and keep it moving forward. From there, you'll want to use techniques of mine such as Hypotheticals, Advanced Cold Reads, and Hooks & Ladders (my method for making sure the conversation NEVER runs out of steam). Essentially, you've got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different "emotional buttons." For example, building comfort is a crucial early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven't made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important. Once you have established comfort, you'll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is "hard to get." You're going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they're up to HER standards.) Then comes the Escalation stage, and finally there is The Close. Depending on the circumstances, this could mean scoring her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than blowing off your calls), or taking her home and nailing her that evening. Unfortunately, VERY few guys really know how to "close" a girl the right way. Learning how to approach women and follow these steps means the difference between chatting with girls every time you go out but never sleeping with them -- or ever seeing them again -- and having the "rock star sex life" that most guys can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with hot, exciting women. Building rock-solid "approach game" means that every time you leave home -- whether it's to shop at the mall, or to hang out at a bar with your friends -- you'll jump on opportunities to meet new, hot women and you'll enjoy every interaction. Approaching beautiful women, starting conversations, and causing them to feel ATTRACTION will become a part of your daily routine. Now I want to give you my bulletproof, sure-fire techniques for “closing the deal.” For a limited time, you can download our free manual on how to pick up girls and you’ll learn how the world’s best seducers and pickup artists close the deal FAST, every time! Click here for your free Mack Tactics book: Free Guide To Picking Up Girls
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