How To Approach Girls - The Three Deadly Errors Guys Make When Trying To Approach Women

Whenever you see a beautiful woman, you can assume that the last 57 guys who attempted to approach her -- whether it was at the bar, the supermarket, or on the street -- sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her "force field" to go on high alert. When this happens, she's going to start looking for an excuse to end the interaction as soon as possible.

She may humor you for a few minutes, answer your questions, and then blow you off politely ("It's been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend"), or perhaps she'll blow you off instantly by mentioning that she has a boyfriend. Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it's very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere.

So now, here are three of the WORST mistakes that guys make when they to try approach women, and some tips on how to AVOID these traps and get the results you want.

Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Acting like you need "permission" to speak to her. When starting an interaction with a woman, never use phrases such as:

"Pardon me, would you mind telling me your name?"

"Excuse me, would you mind if I asked you something?"

"May I buy a drink for you?"

Trying to begin an interaction in this manner puts you at the woman's mercy. From her point of view, you're some random stranger who WANTS something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in.

Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you'll expect in return: you'll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When you offer to buy a drink for a woman you don't even know, you're basically attempting to bribe her into granting you some of her time.

Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Not a chance. There's a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it -- and it's certainly not in the first 30 seconds.

One of the basic principles of talking to women effectively is that you've got to stay in control of the interaction. You maintain the "power position" and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to "invisibly" guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her passions, ambitions and talents) that she'd normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago.

At this point, a girl is going to start feeling attraction -- and this is when you're on the right track.

The first key to maintaining this sense of power and control is NOT starting the conversation in a weak, uncertain manner. And once of the weakest ways to begin a conversation is to ask permission to talk to her. Never ask permision. Assume that she'll be totally interested in meeting you.

Here's the second "Deadly" mistake that guys make when they approach women: Not assuming rapport. When two people have "rapport" it means they're comfortable with each other and have stuff in common. They're talking to each other as if they've been friends forever -- playing around, laughing, chatting about subjects of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview.

When a guy with weak approach game starts conversing with a woman, the "conversation" seems stiff and formal and usually consists of questions: "So what's your name?" "Are you from around here?" "So what do you do for work?" Etc. Basically, he could be having this same conversation with a busines colleague! There's nothing attractive, interesting or sexy about anything he is saying.

On the flip side of the coin, guys who are really confident around women have a tendency to ASSUME rapport with them. These guys don't see any need to waste time asking a bunch of uninspiring questions about where she's from, has she been to this place before, etc. Right from the start, he's joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination.

He makes her feel invested in the conversation, and she'll want to show that she can keep up with him. Even within the space of the first few minutes of conversation, this guy is showing her that he's an interesting, dynamic guy who clearly has a lot of OPTIONS, He leads an attractive lifestyle, and she's going to want to be a part of it.

The final "Deadly Approach Mistake" is not having a game plan when you go into the conversation, and not having an "exit strategy" (or "closing strategy") either. The majority of guys put too much importance on the "opener" -- what they're going to say to the girl FIRST. Actually, how you FOLLOW UP your opener is of much greater importance -- how you transition into the conversation and keep it moving forward. At that point, you can use a variety of techniques including Cold Reads, Hooks & Ladders, and Hypothetcials to make sure you NEVER "run out of steam" during the conversation.

In short, you've got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different "emotional buttons." For example, building comfort is a significant early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven't made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important.

Once you have established comfort, you'll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is "hard to get." You're going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they're up to HER standards.)

Then comes the Escalation stage, and finally there is The Close. Depending on the situation, this could mean scoring her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than ignoring your calls), or taking her home and nailing her that evening. So few guys understand how to "close" successfully.

Learning how to approach women and follow these steps means the difference between meeting new women from time to time, but never getting the chance to sleep with them -- or ever seeing them again -- and having the "rock star sex life" that most guys can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with hot, exciting women.

It means that literally anytime you leave your home -- whether it's to run errands, or to hit a bar or nightclub with your friends -- you'll look for opportunities to approach women and have fun interactions, instead of this being something you shy away from, or stress out over.

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