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How confident are you in your ability to approach a random gorgeous woman and get her interested in talking to you? If you don't have these skills, you're letting opportunities pass you by every day. Very few guys realize the way to approach a woman and begin the interaction in a playful, fun way that creates a compelling motivation for girls to WANT to talk to you, and see where things lead. When you spot a hot girl, you can assume that the last 33 guys who attempted to approach her -- whether it was at the bar, the park, or on the street -- sent all the wrong signals. They immediately made her feel uncomfortable and caused her "force field" to go on high alert. At that point, she's going to look for a reason to bow out of the interaction as soon as possible. She may humor you for a few minutes, answer your questions, and then blow you off politely ("It's been nice talking to you, but I need to go find my friend"), or she might shoot you down immediately ("Uh, I've got a boyfriend"). Either way, when you approach women the wrong way, it's very unlikely that the conversation is going to go anywhere. So now I want to explain the three most "lethal" mistakes that guys make when attempting to approach women, and some tips on how to AVOID these traps and get the results you want. Deadly Approach Mistake #1: Asking a girl for "permission" to speak with her. When starting an interaction with a woman, never use phrases such as: "Pardon me, would you mind telling me your name?" "Excuse me, would you mind if I asked you something?" "Can I buy you a drink?" Opening a conversation this way instantly puts you at her mercy. In her eyes, you are a random stranger and you WANT something from her. This is an uncomfortable situation for anyone to be in. Note: Offering to buy her a drink may sound like you want to GIVE her something, but she knows what you'll expect in return: you'll want to monopolize her time for the next ten or twenty minutes. When you offer to buy a drink for a woman you don't even know, you're basically attempting to bribe her into granting you some of her time. Would a truly confident guy approach women this way? Not a chance. There's a correct point in the interaction to buy a girl a drink, and a clever way of doing it -- and it's certainly not in the first 30 seconds. One of the rules of effective conversation is for you to stay in control at all times. You maintain the "power position" and dictate the flow of the conversation and the topics that are discussed (and avoided). The key is to do this subtly. You can learn how to "invisibly" guide the conversation so that you make her laugh, experience positive emotions, and share personal details (such as her talents, goals and passions) that she'd normally never share with a guy she only met a few minutes ago. At this point, a girl is going to start feeling attraction -- and this is when you're on the right track. The first key to maintaining this sense of power and control is NOT starting the conversation in a weak, uncertain manner. And once of the weakest ways to begin a conversation is to ask permission to talk to her. Never ask permision. Assume that she'll be totally interested in meeting you. Here's the second "Deadly" mistake that guys make when they approach women: Not assuming rapport. When two people have "rapport" it means they're comfortable with each other and have stuff in common. They're talking to each other as if they've been friends forever -- playing around, laughing, chatting about topics of common interest instead of the conversation sounding like a job interview. Watch a guy with lousy approach skills start a conversation with a woman, and you'll notice that he almost always starts asking questions: "So what's your name?" "Are you from around here?" "So what do you do for work?" Etc. Basically, he could be having this same conversation with a busines colleague! There's nothing attractive, interesting or sexy about anything he is saying. On the other hand, the guy who is extremely good with women always assumes rapport. These guys don't see any need to waste time asking a bunch of dreary questions about where she's from, has she been to this place before, etc. Right from the start, he's joking around with her, playfully teasing her, asking her questions and telling quick stories that make her smile and stimulate her imagination. He makes her feel invested in the conversation, and she'll want to show that she can keep up with him. Even in the first few minutes he's showing her that he's a fun, dynamic, interesting guy who leads an attractive lifestyle. Deadly Approach Mistake #3: Not having a conversational game plan and a closing strategy. Most guys put way too much emphasis on what to say first (or how to "open" her). In fact, what you follow up with is far more important -- how you transition into the conversation and get it flowing. At that point, you can use a variety of techniques including Cold Reads, Hooks & Ladders, and Hypothetcials to make sure you NEVER "run out of steam" during the conversation. In short, you've got to know how to keep guiding the conversation forward so that it follows a sequence of steps that push her different "emotional buttons." For example, building comfort is a very important early step. No woman is going to want to give you her phone number (much less sleep with you that night) if you haven't made her feel comfortable with you. This is why learning the right comfort-building techniques is so important. Once you have established comfort, you'll want to start challenging her & teasing her (but always in a light, playful way). This is the stage where you frame yourself as a high-value man who is "hard to get." You're going to make her work for your attention and positive feedback, and make her want to measure up to YOUR standards. (This is the complete opposite of how most guys interact with women, as they awkwardly try to demonstrate that they're up to HER standards.) Next comes Escalation (both verbal and physical), and finally there is The Close.. Depending on the circumstances, this could mean scoring her phone number (and having her WANT to see you again soon, rather than blowing off your calls), or taking her home that night. So few guys understand how to "close" successfully. Learning how to approach women and follow these steps means the difference between chatting with girls every time you go out but never sleeping with them -- or ever seeing them again -- and having the "rock star sex life" that most guys can only fantasize about, leading a lifestyle filled with fun, beautiful women. Building bulletproof "approach game" means that every time you leave home -- whether it's to shop at the mall, or to hang out at a bar with your friends -- you'll jump on opportunities to meet new, hot women and you'll enjoy every interaction. Starting conversations with hot girls, and controlling those conversations so that they develop feelings of ATTRACTION, will be a part of your new lifestyle. Now, to move the conversation to the BEDROOM, let me give you the techniques that get me laid every time I go out. For a limited time you can download our free book on how to approach women and make them feel sexual attraction – fast! Click here: The Ultimate Free Guide To Picking Up Girls
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