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Are you unhappy in your relationship or your marriage? Nobody is perfect at love! We don't have all the answers even when we think we do. So how do you work at making the relationship work? For sure it takes a commitment from within , but here are a few simple ideas that just might get you off to a good start. Don't fall into the silent treatment solutions as it fixes nothing and only will make it worse. We have all done it at one time or another. But when you do that you fail to let the other know what you want or need or even what you are thinking, and how you feel about something. The assumption that somebody is a mind reader doesn't work. So why are you so surprised when their actions (or in-actions) gave you a negative response or feeling. Whats fair in a relationship? What it takes to improve a relationship or marriage isn’t always fair. You might have to be the big person most of the time. You might have to make the first (or 1000th) move to warm up your relationship, be more affectionate, or keep things civil. You might have to assume the role of leader, while your spouse or lover merely follows along. It’s not fair, but it’s reality. Would you rather have a fair relationship , marriage or a happy one? I choose happy every time. OMG, this one seem to grate on me. Its okay to voice a problem or something the other does that you don't like. You have to be able to calmly talk to each other. Don't be a complainer, that will only push the other person away. Become a problem solver, not a problem voice. Define what’s wrong. Try these solutions with an open mind, even the ones you don’t think will work. I believe these might go hand in hand or at least close enough. But when one try’s to control a person you are only playing a game of illusion with yourself. The same when you start with the sarcasm. Its like you are trying to get back at the other person because you are unhappy. Nagging irritates you, and it irritates that special person in your life or your spouse, too. It also makes your spouse tune you out, creating a vicious cycle. And sarcasm will only push the other person away. So talk to one another, listen to what they are saying , be a good listener. Do what you know will make the other feel important and loved. Bring back the compliments, the simple thank yous those special hugs and kisses. That will bring back the physical intimacy and support for one another that we all desire. Have a great and happy relationship from Love U Site.
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