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Love and jealousy seem to be two very different feelings, but they often go hand in hand and can cause a great damage in one of the most important parts of human life by badly affecting our relationships to the ones we care about most. So it is not uncommon to love or appreciate somebody and have some jealous feelings at the same time. At first sight it seems that we can’t command our nature but as jealousy is mostly a behavior, which is highly enforced by our conditioning surroundings, we can do a lot to change it and begin to express a more unconditional kindness and love. There may be various definitions of what love really means, but for sure a love which is mostly based on attraction and where one of the partners tries to control the other one in order to get some good feelings – this has nothing to do with real love. It is more a kind of dependency on one another. So although love is totally free and may be expressed in very different ways, we should try to free it from any forms of feelings that are in contradiction to it, and jealousy surely is one of it. The definition of jealousy tells us that it is an emotion that expresses the negativity in feelings. It may also consist of anger, inadequacy, disgusting etc. There can be situations, when expressing jealousy can cause real harm to someone else, be it by words or by action. It seems, that it is a state whit high emotional charge. If we want to step out of this pattern naturally the question arises: How to deal with jealousy? Being jealous will always cause you pain and will surely devastate your life. So it is highly desirable find out something about the different ways to deal with jealousy: The first thing is to get conscious about what is going on and to realize, which feelings for you personally hide behind jealousy. The seed of most of them lies in your childhood and can consist of several anxieties: not feeling worthy, envy, feeling rejected and so on. It is critical to know this personal fingerprint of your jealousy to identify it and to begin to deal with it on a more conscious level. Once you know this about yourself dealing with jealousy becomes much more easy and you will gain more trust, joy and freedom for your life. There are many eBooks available online which will guide you through the process of getting rid of jealousy. Many of them deal with jealousy in relationships and will bring you on the right track to overcome this uncomfortable feeling and make your life and love much happier.
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