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The other day, a friend had asked me if I was "Born Gay". I was caught off guard by the question as the timing as truly off, but what caught me off guard the most was the nature of the question itself. I had heard the myth before of how gay persons are born to like persons of the same sex, and how heterosexual persons were born to like persons of the opposite sex, but I had never been asked this question before. As it took me a minute to regroup from the question, I came to the revelation that a person who I respect and even emulate at times would truly think that this was even an option. To lighten the mood a bit, I started to chuckle as I answered in a monotone voice that, "people are not born gay, being gay is a lifestyle choice that we choose in time". This question soon turned into an intellectual conversation that consumed the better part of the afternoon. Throughout the course of that afternoon, the differences of opinion soon became evident through the myriad of facial expressions as it soon became more of a autobiography then a lesson on society differences. My life as I had known it is obviously something that I am very comfortable with, but this autobiography was more like a nightmare for someone who I would normally call a very good friend. Being asked this question is one thing, but when one has to defend their own personal beliefs in defense of many within the gay community is another. "How can you tell me that gay people are not born gay?" As I tried to explain that once upon a time I actually liked persons of the opposite sex, there seemed to be a huge barrier when I divulged the fact that there was even a time when I had heterosexual contact as well. From the reaction that I had received I would have thought that I had committed some sick felony or told him that Santa Claus is not real. Needless to say, our friendship is no longer. It just goes to show that there are still people out there who believe that people are born into what they become, and society and lifestyles have nothing to do with what shapes us. I for one do not believe this, as I am a firm believer that life is what makes us who we are and who we are is defined by the choices that we make. Being gay is a lifestyle, it's a choice that we make at some point-in-time, and that definitive point in time differs for all of us. Who's to say that heterosexual people cannot change who they are and turn gay or vice versa. I for one am living proof of this happening and I can think of many others who would agree with me on this notion. So the next time you hear the question, "We're you born gay", just remember, there is still someone out there, somewhere, who truly believes that our paths in life are all pre-defined as we are all destined to be who we were born to be. By: Scott C Baxter For more information pertaining to the gay community, visit http://gayworlddailynews.com/
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