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When two people get married,the very last thing they think about is the possibility of divorce. Very rarely do individuals believe that they will not be together forever, but while they are unfortunate, statistics show that more than half of marriages end in this way. Perhaps there is a variety of issues to discuss on that matter alone, but the reality is that this is a fact we must observe because the processes and consequences are quite real. My husband and I got married fifteen years ago, and we are still very happily married. We have four lovely children and could not be more excited about life. However, we have made many family friends through church and volunteer organizations and have watched a couple of these families split by divorce. It has been difficult to witness, as the dynamics change quite dramatically--not only for us as family friends, but also for our children who have become close with other family's children, and so on. There was one family in particular that we were extremely close with. We spent a lot of time with this family, and I was very close to the mother. She and I would often spend multiple days of the week together on various trips and occasions with our children. When she told me that her and her husband were getting a divorce, I could tell that it was something she was ready to deal with mentally and emotionally, but she had come to me stating she had no idea where to begin with the logistics. This woman did not know how to go about dealing with the divorce process and said that her husband was just unwilling to deal with any of the details. While I knew it was an unfortunate event, I was willing to give her some advice. While I had never gone through the process personally, I told her what I knew from the variety of other individuals in my life that had gone through the same process. I asked her if she was aware of Utah divorce mediation. It was immediately clear to me that she had not even considered Utah divorce mediation. I was quite shocked at this because I knew it was the focal point of this entire process. I told her that if she were to look online for Utah divorce mediation she would find a variety of options in the area that could aid in her divorce process. After explaining that she could seek out these individuals online, it became clear to me that she did not even know what Utah divorce mediation was all about. I then went on to tell her that mediation in a divorce is necessary for the purpose of mediating a divorce. This individual would be trained in facilitation and in different negotiation techniques which would allow for a smoother divorce process. This mediator would assist both her and her husband in reaching a mutually acceptable conclusion. After telling her about all of this, she was unsure about how this person would be partial to one party or the other. I assured her that a divorce mediator does not impose their own personal solution, but actually works with both individuals to find their very own understanding. This person would be trained to hear out both sides in that the solution reached is completely mutually respected. After telling her about this, she was able to find a mediator in which she trusted in Utah simply by using the Internet. She was grateful for my advice, as this process was a lot smoother than she ever anticipated.
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