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What man's blood has not turned to ice on hearing that question? We have all been cornered outside changing rooms in a clothing store, or when she has stepped out of the bedroom before you both go on that big night out. There is no easy answer to this question, but I hope we find an answer by the end of this article. But firstly, what is being frank? We all love frankness in children. Theirs is a simple world described with simple words. This fondness for their frankness stems from the fact that they are too naive to think of anything else, they have no hidden malice. However, this fondness soon ends when they say something akin to, 'Daddy, is this the fat lady you do not like?' Politicians find that frankness is an expensive luxury. Voters do not elect people who do not sugar coat the hard choices ahead. They prefer some soft soap. Yet once in office any perceived attempt to dilute the truth is met with calls of dishonesty and for resignation. Yet perversely, those politicians who have been too frank and have caused a public outrage with their blunt words are also called to fall on their sword. Who would be a politician? Some people use frankness to hurt. Perhaps they have low self-esteem or they enjoy hurting people. Tennesee Williams was right when he said 'All cruel people describe themselves as paragons of frankness.' Others are socially blind - they wound with their frankness, but they would be horrified to be told they have hurt someone. As we have seen by the example of the child, anyone can be frank. To have tact, not the exact opposite of frankness, is a skill which is difficult to acquire and some refuse to acquire it at all. Tact is the ability to give criticism whilst leaving the person with a smile. How does all this help with our question 'TELL ME FRANKLY, DOES MY BUM LOOK BIG IN THIS?' Well, if you are asked for a frank answer you are put to torture. And if you are put to torture you do not have to tell the truth. I'm not saying tell a direct lie, she will know if you do - just be tactful. Now we can be economical with the truth. However, if you answer 'YES' to both of the following questions - tell the truth if you like. 1. Do you have protective head gear? 2. If this woman is your partner/wife, are you happy never to see her naked again. If you answer 'NO' to one of the above, then I suggest the following tactful answer: If she looks good, say so. No problems there. However if it could look better I suggest saying: ‘Baby your gorgeous bum deserves better than that. Let's see you in something even sexier’. And don't forget to keep some head protection handy! Lol (Laurence) Cohen is the founder and guiding light of the Picture of Health Clubs. His dedication to change his life for the better, combined with a study of the human physiology and stretching, have made him perfectly placed to promote the Picture of Health Clubs message to unwind body and mind. For more advice and information related to the article, please visit thePicture of Health Clubs blog. Alternatively, check out the book here Sign up to receive our regular free newsletters and get 5 free stress management strategies here: http://www.pictureofhealthclubs.com/
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