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No matter who you are or what you may have gone through in your life, all of us have a sense of self pride. It may be closer to the surface for some of us or buried deep for others but we all have it. Yet that pride can often be a major stumbling block when it comes to getting or asking for help we truly need. It could be for an upcoming test at school, moving a heavy piece of furniture or asking for directions because you are trying to find a specific location. Our pride says don't bother just do it yourself. And the result? A failing grade, a strained back or driving around lost for hours. The same goes sometimes for victims of domestic violence who know they need help. True, they may have finally gotten out of the abusive relationship and for that they are to be highly commended. But there is also a refusal on their part to take the next step; which is getting the help they need to rebuild their lives. And a major part of saying no to that help is pride. This can come in several forms 1. They Got It It took them a long time to get out of that nightmare but they finally did it. From their perspective it was done with no encouragement or assistance from any outside sources; not even the immediate family. For them that means if they got out of a terrible situation on their own then they can rebuild their life the same way. 2. Embarrassment Domestic violence is a very humiliating experience which can tax your self-respect to the limit. They may have been able to keep what was going on in their relationship quiet all these year, so the last thing they want to do is broadcast it to the outside world; especially when they consider the matter over and done with. 3. NYOB That's right it's none of your business. What went on between two consenting adults is nobody's concern. In their opinion this is exactly what's wrong with the world today; people sticking their nose where it don't belong. Take care of yourself and leave them out of it. It is vital to let someone who has been a victim of domestic violence know that the assistance is there and can be invaluable in helping to restore their lives. Of course there is no way you can force someone to accept help they do not want. But the difference between accepting help or not is the difference between asking for directions or driving around lost for hours. The sooner you ask, the quicker you can get where you need to go. And when it comes to domestic violence, the sooner you ask for help the quicker you can start rebuilding your life. Article written by Daryl Campbell. Discover the nine step formula for surviving an abusive relationship at The Relationship Tip.
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