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I wanted to share this Christian dating advice for women with my Christian single sisters because some single women think that the best way to get a guy to commit to them is to give him their body and sleep with him. They believe that by having sex with a guy it will create a stronger bond between them and that it will ignite true love and commitment in the heart of the guy. Some Christian single ladies have this false idea that they can use sex to trap a guy into a long term relationship. Sex does not equal love and sex certainly will not guarantee you a long term relationship with a guy. Let me let you into the mind of a guy real quick, a guy can sleep with you without having any feelings for you. A guy can be having sex with you while his mind is somewhere else. For a typical woman, her whole body spirit, soul and emotions are involved when she is having a sexual experience with a man. That's why after sex most women still want to cuddle and hold hands and talk because for women sex isn't just the act of intercourse. But men are different (I should know because I am one), a typical man can have sex with a woman without his emotions being involved, meaning that while you are sleeping with him and thinking of how wonderful the experience is and having fantasies about a future with him, he might only be involved in the act with just his body and his mind and emotions are elsewhere, he might just be sleeping with you for the momentary pleasure and not have any plans of a future with you or even any romantic feelings for you, at worst he might even just see you as a nice physical body that he wants to have sex with and conquer sexually but have absolutely no connection with you on an emotional or spiritual level. That's why a guy can finish having sex with a woman and get up straight away to go watch football while the woman still wants to remain in bed and talk and be romantic. So you see the danger of thinking that you can trap him by sleeping with him. Aside from the fact that as Christians, sex outside of marriage is wrong and you shouldn't be doing it as a single person even if you are in a so called committed courtship, you also as a woman are in danger of short changing yourself by offering your most prized possession to a guy that might not even be genuine in his intentions towards you. If a guy truly loves you and wants to be with you, he will, regardless of whether you give him sex or not and believe me when I tell you that I say that from experience. Sex is not what will make him stay, just ask the many ladies who slept with a guy thinking he will commit to them and love them in turn, only to find that the guy slept with them and left them for their girlfriend and in some cases they were left with an unwanted or unplanned pregnancy and now find themselves raising his child without his help or involvement. Instead of getting his love and commitment in return for the sex they gave him as they hoped, they got something else they didn't bargain for. So I really hope that the single ladies and single women that read this will heed to the advice I have shared in this article. It could potential save you from a lifetime of pain and disappointments. It always pays to do things the right way which is Gods way and I can testify to the fact that when I conducted my courtship with my wife Gods way, it succeeded while all the others that I compromised in failed. Sex is not a bargaining tool, neither is it a tool to be used to blackmail or trick a guy into staying with you. Sex is sacred and is to be reserved for that special guy that truly loves you enough to stay with you and commit to you and marry you even without you giving him sex. Such a guy has proven himself faithful and deserving. Paul Ogunkoya has a passion for giving singles dating, courtship and relationship advice, especially Christian singles. He is devoted to equiping single men and women as well as teenagers with sound and practical relationship and courtship advice that will help them to succeed in the dating scene with as little pain and disappointments as possible. His vision is to help singles achieve happy and meaningful relatioships as well as live fulfilled lives and not delay their happiness until marriage.
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